Saturday, October 27, 2018

The Hard Truth of Life

No matter how hard you try to make someone happy, you will never succeed. Try to make yourself happy, that's the only possibility.

You may sacrifice doing things which you don't like, for someone whom you like. Is it the real you? You are faking. You want to be loved? The real you or the fake you? When you do things you don't like you are exposing the fake you to the one whom you like. They tend to like the fake you, not the real you. When you become real, they hate you.

Don't expect others to understand you when they know only the fake you. It's not their mistake. They can understand only the fake you. Because they only know the fake you. When you are upset or nervous or in pain, the real you unveils. It's new to those whose are used to see the fake you. They never know you and you can't expect someone to understand a stranger. These two souls were never connected. They don't know each other. So misunderstanding is obvious. Accept the misunderstanding because it's your mistake.

Can you make yourself happy? Yes? Always? No not always.. then how can you try to make others happy always? Making others happy is a good thing to do. But are you happy to make others happy? You can share only what you have. You can't when you don't have. When you are not knowledgeable on a subject, you can't take a knowledge sharing session. When you don't have money, you can't share money. When you are suffering from hunger, you can't share food. When you are not happy, you can't share happiness and make others happy. If you still do, it's faking yourself. Faking someone. First make yourself happy, then try making others happy.

Hard Truth!!!

Saturday, February 3, 2018

For those who think you cant!!!

For those who think you can't run!!!

Running is not about physical strength, its all about mind. Especially the long run.
"The Body achieves, what the mind believes"
Start your run today. Yes now. Think that you are running. Start your run in your mind. Start visualizing that you are crossing the miles stones one by one. Visualize from the Start. Feel the pleasure of completing each miles stone. Visualize till the finish line. No negative thoughts. Run your mind through the track. Your mind should complete the run first for you to begin the run. You are half way through.
Now get physically ready for the race. Race!!! Yes it is. Its the race between your mind, body and heart. At some point in time during the run, your body says i cant, your mind slides towards your body but your heart wishes to complete the run. Chase your body with your mind and follow the heart. You will be on the finish line.

Things to do before Race: [Only based on my experience]

If your run is in the early morning,

  • Don't have a heavy dinner.
  • Take rest, but don't be lazy
  • Cut the nails in the toe if any
  • Run as much times as you can, not physically but in your mind
  • Take a deep sleep
  • Hydrate as much as possible in the night before bed
  • A lite meal / a piece of bread / an apple 2 hrs before the run
  • Use the washroom before the start
  • A must warm-up before start.
While Running:


  • Hydrate when needed, have little water, probably a 50 ml would do
  • Keep counting, how much more to run not how much you have completed. eg) If you are running a 5k, once you complete 1 km keep moving thinking only 4 more to go.
  • Try to keep your run in a same pace
  • If you feel panting [out of breath], start watching your breath which helps you to keep your breath in control.
  • One more way to forget the distance is to watch the steps of the one who is running in front of you and follow it.
  • Never stop even if you cant keep moving forward, Just jog
  • Even if you are the last person running, you are not the last. There are millions of people who are not running. You are far better than them.
  • Complete the run, Don't forget to take a snap to cherish the moment later.
Run your own Race.
Keep Running!!! Keep Smiling!!!

Sunday, January 21, 2018

"Good or Bad" its how you see this world

The way we see this world.
Someone may be good for you, the same person might be bad for someone else.
Can there be someone in this world who is bad for everyone?
Impossible.. irrespective of what he does, good or bad. He might be a good person for someone.
The best example would Robin Hood. Why should we think of Bollywood!!! Sorry other country nationals, we are familiar with the name Mr Veerappan. Bad for the entire nation except the locals who lived in and around his boundary.

Take a minute to think of someone whom you don't like. Also think why you don't like.
You don't like because he is bad? Or you don't like because he does what you don't like?
Your answer would be 'yes' for the later.

Now think if you are doing those so called don't likes of yours? There will be few or handful of those which we do more often but we ignore or justify with some valid reason which will be valid only for us.

Are you a good person to everyone? You may think yes, but you can never be.. Are you doing bad things? Of course your answer will be a big NO.

There is something ambiguous. You have to really think about it. Question it yourself. Need not change, but be aware. Being aware of oneself is more important than changing just by following someone.

Everyone is neither good nor bad. Then, who are we? good or bad?
It's all about how you are seen. THE WAY WE SEE THIS WORLD. LET THEM SEE!!!

Sunday, October 23, 2016

A 10 hours driving - a new learning

It is a dream for most of the typical Indian middle class family to own a car. No matter it's a sedan or a hatchback, new or old, black or white, it's a car.
I'm not an exception. Yet I was not excited due to various reasons while owning a car.
Long Drive- it's the new trend. I wanted to experience it but with my family. Plan was set. A long drive, more than 500kms.
Haven't experienced a long drive on my own before. So thinking as if im smart I made a plan. Totally 540 kms, by any chance I can drive at a speed of 100kms/hr if so I can cover within 6 hrs.

But the reality was different. My calculations went wrong. Driving is not so easy. You can't calculate and drive until and unless you are ready to take risk.
Risk is risking the life, not only yours but also the others who are with you trusting you that you will drive safe. 
Had to drive slow,to reach safe.

Finally a happy safe drive makes a happy journey!!

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Challenge is not doing what you can; it's about what you can't

How good it would be if you do something you like!!
How happy it would be if you achieve something which you can't!!
How exciting it would be, if you do those with your friends!!!
Yes we did...
It was challenging... Challenges in different forms...
We five of us, Senthil, Kumar, Jansi, Jaya and myself, planned to go for a trip, a small trek...

The challenge started here...

I have never come across anyone in this world without problems... have you?  And the plan was about to be dropped. Family issues, rumors on Chief Minister, climatic conditions, etc. etc.. The enthusiastic five never wanted the plan to be dropped. The plan was to go to Nagallapuram, which is known for its unknown routes. So we arranged a guide to take us to the destination. Sunday was the D day. Saturday night the guide informed people that the routes are blocked by trees due to rainfall.  We had a collaborative talk and took a decision of trying our best to reach where we can.  The D day early morning 5 am we started our journey. The previous day we had put our efforts to understand the route where there is no route.
We reached the destination of start (ie) the starting point of trekking. No one to guide. No routes. No one else on the way to seek help. What we all had was happiness, passion and trust. With all these we started our walk. We never felt we are new to the place. Yes the Sun didn't show mercy on us. It tried it's best to drain us down but it couldn't. We had a strong defense force and a technique with us . The defense force is none other than a camera and the technique is Selfie. It made us smile even in hot Sun. 2 liters of water it was empty within 15 min. We walked down the forest with no water with a hope we will reach the desired destination ie water falls. Soon after 2 hrs we reached water stream crossing point. A sense of achievement in all of us. The saying "Happiness is a journey not the destination" became true at that point of time. No energy to move on, yet we moved. Further down, farther from the water stream, climbed up and down, with the rhythm of humming insects, removed the mask (profession, education, religion, etc) and realized the true self. Listening to the nature, we walked for a while.  When you are with the nature, you can communicate with the nature, it communicates with you. The water falls with its fall directed us.  Reached the sliding falls. No words, just the feel. The journey didn't stop, yet another falls that was our destination. Little risky, which we felt only after seeing the photos of our path. A space for a  Hallux (big toe) and if you slip, you will be on the rock 40 ft down. No way to escape. The thrill, the passion, the energy kept us moving.
Finally,  We were in the place we were supposed to be. I felt the saying "Happiness is a journey not the destination" was not true. Happiness is reaching the destination.  We were much happier than we expected.  We forgot ourselves and jumped into the freezing water. We enjoyed the luxury at no penny. Played with Monkeys by waving them away, running inside the water to avoid the free pedicure by those cute fishes. Oh! We forgot our lunch. We had vessels and rice to cook. Back again to primitive age of cooking, with dried leaves and sticks in the forest. Not sure if the food was soo tasty, but it was hot and yummy. With no heart we had to start back to continue our mechanical life.

Once a while running out of routine is healthy.

The challenges were not actually the challenges; they were the real catalyst of happiness. Overcoming the challenges gave the feel of happiness. It was an awesome trip filled with happiness which will be memorable forever!!!

Few tips to reach nagallapuram:

What I heard is there are different routes to reach the waterfalls at nagallapuram. Let me mention the route which we followed and was soo easy.

From Chennai, goto Uthukottai, then go towards Nagallapuram but don't go into the nagallapuram village which is on the right side. Go to pichatur (right side service road) which will be around 10 km from nagallapuram. Then take right to Arai village which will take u to the dam.

Left side below the big tree, there is parking (car / bike) paid parking rupees 60/-.

Park and walk to the right side. Climb up the small sand slide and you can see the amazing scenery. Mountain behind the dam. Then walk towards the forest. Live with the nature and explore it.

Comment if u need any clarification, will try my best to help you out.
(Will post pics soon)